Nashville, TN — A local man used a roll of duct tape this past weekend to tape his mouth shut, as well as that of his 8-year-old son, to allow the ladies in their home to speak. “I just got so tired of interrupting my wife every time we spoke,” the local man said, “And I figured that I would do something to just SHUT UP.”
The local man also used the incident to teach his two sons about respect and encouragement: “You have to treat a lady like a lady, whether its your sister, mom, friend or spouse. And that means allowing them to speak and be a part of your conversation. And one of these days I am going to get it right with your mom, who (when I stop to listen), has a lot of great things to say.”
The man and his two sons have now made a line of duct tape “SHUT UP BRACELETS” to sell to other men in the world as a reminder to … JUST SHUT UP!
Okay. So this local man was me. Not years ago. Not months ago. This past weekend. I think you get the picture, but there’s more to the lesson.
A couple will never be able to communicate if one of them is always talking and the other one is always listening. I understand that we all have talents in our lives, but I have recently learned that my talent or strength as a construction litigation attorney during the day is setting me up for conflict and failure at home in the evening. My wife and family are not my clients, they are not a judge or jury, they are not my legal problem to solve. They are my family. Many times, my wife just wants me to listen as I walk into the door: listen to her problems, listen to her excitements, listen to her ideas….JUST LISTEN TO HER.
So what’s your challenge in communication with your spouse or children? Do you need to listen more?