When our fifth child was born, he had minor complications with a hole in his lung and an inability to breathe. While my wife stayed at one hospital in recovery following the delivery, I was transported to another local hospital to be bed-side with my newborn son in the NICU. I am sure this has happened to you in some form or another…challenged by a medical catastrophe.
While at the NICU, we had the privilege of meeting Mollie and Dax, a supermom and her premature superhero. Dax was born premature at 23 weeks. His twin sister, Aubrie, was delivered prior to that and went to heaven when she was a day old. Dax is now five and you can read about their heart-touching story at Wrecked,
Again, we all struggle. Our family is the same as yours. Mollie’s family is the same as yours. Let’s learn from each other. As I have watched Mollie weather the storms over the past five years, here are three things that this supermom and her premature superhero have taught me about living:
- Live Your Own Life. As parents, we have a tendency to over-protect our children. In her own journey, Mollie has every reason to want to live her little man’s life for him…to talk for him…to experience for him…to protect his every move. But Mollie has chosen to live her own life as a mother of an exceptional and challenged young boy. Mollie has chosen to let Dax become a superhero, allowing him to venture out in the world, and fall, and get hurt, and grow!
- Laugh at Life. When you are challenged, you have a choice of attitudes. Do you want to sulk? Do you want to get angry? Do you want to plan a resolution? For Mollie, she has chosen to laugh at life. Just follow her Facebook posts and you will be ROFL (…that’s rolling on the floor laughing for you non-texters…). For example, describing that horrific time when your child screams out in a location that normally should be a quiet place, Mollie chides: “The sermon today was on the Holy Spirit. Coincidentally (or not?) my little wannabe Pentacostal child yelled out in tongues exercising his fancy new vocal cord the whole time. Made me think of the Mississippi Squirrel Revival… Happy Sunday, y’all!” Thanks for the awesome reminder of laughter.
- Lend Your Life. As much as you think you have on your own plate (with work, school, family, health, debt, or whatever), you can rise above your circumstances by lending your life to others. When Aubrie joined the other angels in heaven, Mollie made sure to form Aubrie’s Angels in an effort to ensure that every special needs child has access to toys and equipment that will allow them to thrive! Every year, Mollie and her friends lend their lives to improving the lives of others.
Question: Do you know a supermom like Mollie? What have you learned from them?